I buy a lot of books. I read a lot of books. I review a lot of books.
No book has changed me like Allison Bottke's soon to be released book, "Setting Boundaries With Your Adult Children".
Except the Bible.
Allison wrote this book out of a painful experience involving her own son; she recounts that pivotal experience in the opening pages. With a prologue from Carol Kent, who's own son's actions changed HER life forever, this book rings with authenticity and a heart for hurting parents that is just HUGE.
In this non-fiction, semi-autobiographic book, Allison first explains "The Parent as Enabler". This was a difficult section to read, because from the very beginning I saw myself in these pages. But it was also a divine appointment (and you thought this was just a book review:-), because I also found freedom in these pages.
Allison quotes from other authors and from surveys and interviews she has done with experts in their fields of Christian counseling and psychology, as well as from parents who've "been there, done that, bought the t-shirt, run the ride".
Well researched and expertly written, this section will truly release the parent(s) or grandparents from the cycle of enabling and dysfunctional behavior that is running rampant through our Christian families today.
In part two, Allison gives us her "S.A.N.I.T.Y." savers...and I'm a gal who loves me some alliteration and acronyms! She encourages us to "STOP your own negative behavior...whatever we're doing to enable the adult child to continue in his or her dysfunction. And the list goes on from there...finally spelling out blessed sanity!
The second half continues with "developing an action plan", "considering the consequences" and "other vital issues"...proof that Allison does not take this subject lightly. In fact, her research is so thorough I'm going to be doing a LOT more reading that is recommended by Allison herself.
And you may look forward to those reviews, also.
As a mother of a prodigal (wayward) daughter, this book was more than just something to read. It was, as I stated earlier, a God appointment. I didn't request this book for review...I was asked to review it.
And now I know it was because God knew I needed the message of healing contained in these pages, and because He wants to get the word out to hurting parents of prodigal children..."There is hope, and you are NOT alone!"
I highly recommend Allison's book, "Setting Boundaries With Your Adult Children." I plan on touring with her in the early Spring, so be watching for more information on this book. Until then, I'm not even going to attempt to rate it with my bookmark scale, because the message is too powerful, too needed, too important to trivialize it with a rating.
Buy this book for yourself, for a friend or family member, for someone who's hurting over their adult children. Begin a support group and read it together. And allow yourself to regain your S.A.N.I.T.Y. once again. "Setting Boundaries With Your Adult Children" releases February 1, 2008 and is published by Harvest House Publishers.